Recently we were at the park - a place we visit on the regular. But this time was a little different where as we had met up w/ some other people and enjoyed the afternoon together.
Kaia LOVES the park. Most of the time shes ok when its time to leave, but this day was, like I said, a little different.
She had not had a nap really, and been up early that morning.
She was tired, and was in no mood to be told that
'No, we can't play anymore, we have to go home.'
I knew it was going to be a little harder to distract her. I knew how tired and worn out she was.
I knew we were going to be having a fit sooner than lat. . .
Yep - there it was. I knew she had it in her.
'I don't Want to go Home! I want play at da Park!'
I tried very hard to coax her into helping Mommy, asking if she'd like to help me push the stroller, or hold Mommies hand, or carry the bucket.
The bucket was really more of a pail, but inside were delicious brownies and she knew what was in there.
'Kaia, if you carry the bucket home you may have a brownie when we get there. Would you like to carry the bucket?'
Yes I know, I try bribing her if I think it'll work, and yes I always follow through w/ the bribe.
I handed it to her, and she took it only to take it back over her head
'No! I no want to carry the bucket!'
and throw it pass me.
Brownies smashing all over the sidewalk.
As a mother/parent I hate seeing me girls struggle. I heat seeing them frustrated and angry w/ how things are, weather it be by their own actions or the current circumstances. It hurts to know whats best for them, tell them what that is only to watch them do the opposite. Or to not fully follow directions.
The face she made as she saw what she had done was heart breaking. She was angry. And then very distraught over the brownies she was laying there, knowing what she had done, and that she would not get to enjoy any when we returned home. . . .
I didn't really know what to do -
a) hold her and comfort her for the loss of the treat she would not get to enjoy
or to
b) bend down and tell her 'thats not how we act Kaia'.
I did both.
The look in her eyes said it all - I know I messed up BIG time! What have I done?!
In that moment I saw myself - as a child, acting out, throwing a fit b/c I was tired or irritated w/ the directions I was told to follow.
I felt a fraction of Gods heart for me as His child.
Do you feel that way sometimes?
Lord what have I done?! I've mad a mess of everything - big or little - how will I get over this?!
Why didn't I just follow the directions?
I know I have - I feel that way everyday.
What was I thinking raising my voice? They are so little, I can't loose my temper w/ them.
I shouldn't have been so short to my husband, hes had a long day too.
We teach Kaia to use 'sweet words' 'kind words' and yet more times than not my first reaction is the same as hers - to respond w/ 'harsh words' and 'mean words'.
I'm so glad God loves us even more that I love my girls.
What helps you remember the way God sees you as His child?
Being a parent/mother really does it for me. . .
Kaia LOVES the park. Most of the time shes ok when its time to leave, but this day was, like I said, a little different.
She had not had a nap really, and been up early that morning.
She was tired, and was in no mood to be told that
'No, we can't play anymore, we have to go home.'
I knew it was going to be a little harder to distract her. I knew how tired and worn out she was.
I knew we were going to be having a fit sooner than lat. . .
Yep - there it was. I knew she had it in her.
'I don't Want to go Home! I want play at da Park!'
I tried very hard to coax her into helping Mommy, asking if she'd like to help me push the stroller, or hold Mommies hand, or carry the bucket.
The bucket was really more of a pail, but inside were delicious brownies and she knew what was in there.
'Kaia, if you carry the bucket home you may have a brownie when we get there. Would you like to carry the bucket?'
Yes I know, I try bribing her if I think it'll work, and yes I always follow through w/ the bribe.
I handed it to her, and she took it only to take it back over her head
'No! I no want to carry the bucket!'
and throw it pass me.
Brownies smashing all over the sidewalk.
As a mother/parent I hate seeing me girls struggle. I heat seeing them frustrated and angry w/ how things are, weather it be by their own actions or the current circumstances. It hurts to know whats best for them, tell them what that is only to watch them do the opposite. Or to not fully follow directions.
The face she made as she saw what she had done was heart breaking. She was angry. And then very distraught over the brownies she was laying there, knowing what she had done, and that she would not get to enjoy any when we returned home. . . .
I didn't really know what to do -
a) hold her and comfort her for the loss of the treat she would not get to enjoy
or to
b) bend down and tell her 'thats not how we act Kaia'.
I did both.
The look in her eyes said it all - I know I messed up BIG time! What have I done?!
In that moment I saw myself - as a child, acting out, throwing a fit b/c I was tired or irritated w/ the directions I was told to follow.
I felt a fraction of Gods heart for me as His child.
Do you feel that way sometimes?
Lord what have I done?! I've mad a mess of everything - big or little - how will I get over this?!
Why didn't I just follow the directions?
I know I have - I feel that way everyday.
What was I thinking raising my voice? They are so little, I can't loose my temper w/ them.
I shouldn't have been so short to my husband, hes had a long day too.
We teach Kaia to use 'sweet words' 'kind words' and yet more times than not my first reaction is the same as hers - to respond w/ 'harsh words' and 'mean words'.
I'm so glad God loves us even more that I love my girls.
What helps you remember the way God sees you as His child?
Being a parent/mother really does it for me. . .
I agree. Josh still goes through that. Now sometimes he really yells and screams at me something fierce, and then when I'm silent he becomes soo contrite. It's really hard to console and discipline at the same time. Good for you for doing both. Maybe you've got some tips for me...
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