Guest Post - Making Time For Your Marriage

I'm very honored and excited to present my guest today! I have had a great time getting to 'know' Jennifer through her blog, and being part of a Virtual Community Group we are both in. I have asked her to share a little bit on parenting and marriage, Her blog is full of encouragement. She challenges her readers with truth. I hope you enjoy her words and thoughts today! Welcome Jennifer, and Thank You!

Hi! Thanks so much to Rebecca for having me on the blog. I'm so honored to be a part of what she's doing here! My name is Jennifer and I'm a Pastor's Wife, mommy, part-time worker, and lover of God and life. Just like so many of you, I have days where I juggle things nicely and days where all my roles mesh together in a pretty messy way. Rebecca asked me to blog a little about marriage during the child-rearing years and I'm in the trenches, so I'll keep it real. I have a son Josiah (4) and a son Silas (3) and we're expecting our first daughter in 4 weeks.

One of my favorite movies is "The Princess Bride." You know you love it too. The phrase "Marriage...marriage is what brings us together today," is a well-known line from the movie. And to be honest - many days in our crazy, beautiful life: the fact that we're married is the only thing that brings my husband and I together. We are absolutely crazy about each other & adore parenting, but while the giddiness from long ago dating years is tucked in our hearts, the chaos of potty training, spaghetti fights, ministry, and work don't allow us to tap in to it as often as we'd like. However, we realize that investing in our marriage is key to the other aspects of our lives running smoothly. So practically, here's how we invest in marriage in our home:

1. We pray together. (Not a ton of romance involved here, but we do try to make sure we constantly share areas in which we are struggling or need prayer. This creates an atmosphere of intimacy and trust. We'd love to have scheduled lengthy prayer sessions, but sometimes our prayer time is on the phone while the boys nap, or late at night after they've gone to bed.)

2. We prioritize our alone times. (From our firstborn's beginning, we have stuck with an early bed time. We often have to bow out early from social events or say no to certain things because we realize that sleep is important to our kids, but also, the evening down times are important to us. Some nights we veg and watch tv, other nights we play board games together, and other nights we date at home. These times are sacred to us and we are thankful for them. Our schedule may not work for everyone, but setting aside consistent alone time is soooo important)

3. We flirt. (We have special hand signals that are silly, words that we use to mean something deeper, and we love sending each other flirty text messages and emails throughout the day. This keeps us both reminded of our marriage relationship, and adds some fun into our days too.)

4. We (try very hard to) support each other's dreams. (Jeremy is a dreamer. He has a million ideas a day on how to improve the quality of his work and our parenting. At times I've been the nagging wife, wanting him home more, wanting his attention more, etc. etc. but I've found that when I stop dolling out advice or arguing about something and become his biggest fan, the rewards are manifested in our relationship).

Parenting is awesome, fun, and tough. Marriage is amazing, revitalizing, and work. But God has called us to both and I depend on this verse daily to remind me that He is with me in both: Philippians 1:6 There has never been the slightest doubt in my mind that the God who started this great work in you would keep at it and bring it to a flourishing finish

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